advice

I have been working through a workbook lately that has me examining my actions/habits and putting a bit of consideration into why I do the things I do.  It has occurred to me that a LOT of my actions are based on advice that I have put into play. Below are a few tidbits I have repeatedly found useful:

  1. ) Do not fear tasks that are hard: When I was 16, the first actual “coach” I ever had said this to me when I was consistently shying away from squatting.  I have repeated this very phrase to myself a million times since then.  Often enough, the amount of effort that goes into achieving something is daunting.  You don’t get shredded overnight, you don’t graduate college after a week, you don’t stomp out of the womb with an elite total. All of these things take hard work. And that hard work is worth doing. As cliché as it sounds, I have found that the endeavors I have had to work hardest for are those that I treasure the most.
  2. ) You can only help those who want to be helped: This was a tough one for me to learn. Since before I can remember, I wanted to have the answer for people. Especially those that I love. Unfortunately, that is unrealistic. The truth is, you can’t help anyone who is set on being a victim.  In fact, bailing out chronic damsels will only enable their helplessness and have you pulling your own hair out.
  3. ) Words matter: Be careful how you speak to others.  Further , if you don’t care how your words impact people, then perhaps you don’t have a say in if others words impact you.
  4. ) Make Lists:  I have described myself as a “scatterbrain” several times.  One things that ensures I stay on task is that I make lists and keep them within eyesight.  My laptop currently has two post-it notes with things that are imperative that I get done. Often enough, I will start to feel distracted.  Notes of daily goals pull me back in.
  5. )  Tell the people that you love that you do, in fact, love them. Daily.

As you can see, theres not much about lifting here.